My boyfriend says I’d be ‘disrespecting him’ if I to go to my best friend’s 21st birthday party

He says we should be together 24/7 if we love each other, but I feel trapped.

He is 26, I am 21 and we have been together for a year. He is very controlling and gets angry if I want to see family or friends.

I lied and told my mate I couldn’t go because I was working late.

I feel so guilty. I was just trying to keep the peace with my boyfriend.

He says it is because he loves me but I’ll lose all my friends if I stay in this relationship much longer.

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