Everything seems a bit flat. It feels like there is minimum effort from either side but I reckon I try harder than she does.
We have sex maybe once a week or so. She says she sometimes wonders what it would be like to have sex with someone else and I do too, but that doesn’t affect my fancying her or the effort I put into the relationship.
I really want to ignite the spark, like it was at the start. If we had more of an intimate side, it would surely help in other areas.
But it feels like I’ve forgotten how to get her interested in sex.
DEIDRE SAYS: Every long-term relationship has to change gear if it is to last.
At the start, there is the excitement of having a new sexual partner to make the sparks fly.
But as the months and years go by, you need to put effort into developing greater intimacy and passion, while also introducing fresh notes now and again.
My e-leaflet outlining 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex can help you and your girlfriend to get excited about each other again.
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