DEIDRE SAYS: I’M trying to save up with my girlfriend to put a deposit on a house.
But my mum keeps asking for so much money that my savings are going down rather than up.
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My girlfriend doesn’t know, and she’s getting fed up with how long it’s taking.
She is suspicious of why I’m not ready to buy.
I live at home with my mum, who asks me every two or three months for money – at least £1,000, sometimes £1,500.
I’m 28 and she’s 54. I don’t understand why she needs so much.
I give her £700 a month for housekeeping and she has a part-time job.
When I question her, she fobs me off and tells me she’ll pay me back.
So far, she owes me over £12,000 and I don’t think I’ll ever see any of it again.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I understand why you are so frustrated.
The best policy is to be honest with your girlfriend, and let her know you are working on the problem.
Sit your mum down and explain you can’t continue without a greater under-standing of why she needs the funds.
Do you think she may have got herself into money problems?
Could she be gambling, for example? Don’t let her fob you off.
Be assertive so she understands this situation can’t continue.
I’m sending you my support pack on Standing Up For Yourself and another called Family Finances, which will help you both.
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