How do I tell my mum that I’m moving in with my partner as soon as our baby is born?

DEAR DEIDRE: I DON’T know how to tell Mum that I’m moving in with my boyfriend as soon as my baby is born.

She’s been prepping her house for the baby and I know it will break her heart.


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I am 23 and my partner is 30.We’ve been together for two years.

I recently found out I’m eight weeks’ pregnant.

We are both so happy with the news.

My partner is a Muslim and comes from a very religious family.

We got married before the due date out of respect to his religion, something I was happy to do.

My partner wants us to move into his family home, as it’s bigger and we will be able to quickly save up to buy our own home.

He thinks it doesn’t make sense to stay in my mum’s three-bedroom house when his mum lives alone.

I’m going to end up upsetting someone and I’ll really miss Mum being around when the baby arrives.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Every family dynamic is different but it is not unusual to want to spend time with your own mum after giving birth.

Talk to your partner and explain you would like your mum nearby, at least for the early stages.

Reassure him he is important too and involve him.

Ultimately, this is about your needs, what you want and what is best for you, your baby and your family.

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