Even after 13 years and four children together, my partner won’t commit to me

DEAR DEIDRE: EVEN after 13 years and four children together, my partner won’t commit to me. I’m fed up with it.

Our relationship is pretty good considering we hardly get any time on our own. Before all the tier restrictions we would go for a walk together and occasionally manage a meal out.

He is a good man and I would love to get married to show our commitment to each other and also to our children, who are 13, 11, nine and five.

However, he is still married and even though she has been with someone else for 15 years, he refuses point-blank to divorce his wife, let alone marry me.

I’ve explained to him how much this is upsetting me. But he refuses to divorce her as a compromise.

Am I wasting my time?

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DEIDRE SAYS: Do you know what the circumstances were around the break-up with his wife?

If they were particularly hurtful, that might explain his reluctance to consider remarriage.

Also, are there financial considerations to take into account? Could he be worried a divorce might cost him financially?

You do need to find a good moment when the children aren’t around to discuss why he is reluctant to move forward with you.

He needs to give you proper reasons.

My support pack Standing Up For Yourself will help you put your points forward.

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